What Kids Need – Pastor Stacey Shiflett

What Kids Need

Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

School Chapel Message for Breakfast with Dad

Intro: Kids are expensive! Raising a child can be rewarding emotionally but very costly financially. According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, with an annual adjustment for inflation of 2.2% each year factored in, the lifetime cost of raising a child born in 2022 could be estimated at $272,049. Those numbers don’t include the additional cost of sending a child to college. 

  • Kids want a lot of stuff.
  • Kids need a lot less than they think they do.

Here are a few things kids NEED:

I. Evidence of Lordship

Our verse is clear – they need to be raised up in the nurture and admonition OF THE LORD.

It’s one thing to tell your child that Jesus is Lord; its another thing to show them.

I had a bumper sticker once that said, “REAL MEN LOVE JESUS.”

It raised a lot of eyebrows.

Children need to see evidence in our lives as dads that Jesus Christ is our Lord.

They need to be taught that in the ways of the Lord.

Not man – not the world – not science – not political ideology – but the Lord.

Dads cannot raise their children in the Lord if they don’t know Him.

They cannot raise their children in the Lord if they don’t follow Him.

II. Examples of Leadership

ADMONITION warning, counsel, guidance, input

  • Genesis 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.

III. Experiences of Learning“…bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

NURTURE: the whole training and education of children (which relates to the cultivation of mind and morals, and employs for this purpose now commands and admonitions, now reproof and punishment) It also includes the training and care of the body – Greek Lexicon

  • Proverbs 4:1 Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.

A dad’s number one job is to teach, educate and train their children.

Deuteronomy 6

  • 6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
  • 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
  • 8 And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.
  • 9 And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.

IV. Expressions of Love

  • Luke 15:20 And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.

Provoke not your children to wrath, BUT…

Notice the contrast.

They don’t need to be antagonized.

They don’t need to be driven to frustration.

They need to be loved.

The word PROVOKE is used two different ways in the New Testament.

Here, it we see a person can be provoked to wrath.

In Hebrews, we are commanded to provoke one another to LOVE. (Hebrews 10:24)