The Keys to a Christian Home – Pastor Stacey Shiflett

The Keys to a Christian Home

Acts 10

Intro: One of the things that has burdened my heart lately is the lack of genuine Christian homes. I don’t believe that there are nearly as many Christian homes as we might think.

A Christian home has basic essentials that fit God’s criteria.

God intended for the dad to be the spiritual leader in the home.

He is supposed to lead his wife.

Ephesians 5

  • 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
  • 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
  • 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

He is supposed to lead his children.

  • Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

There are several keys to having a Christian home. Let’s look at some of them.

I. Where the Gospel is Experienced

A truly Christian home is where the family members have experienced God’s saving grace.

Husbands and wives should both be saved in order to have a truly Christian home.

That is why the saved are forbidden from being unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

  • 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

A born-again daddy and husband is God’s design for a Christian home.

Where the dad or husband is missing, a mother can do her best to fill that space.

EXAMPLES: Several places in the Scripture indicate that a saved mother led her house to the Lord.

Lydia – Acts 16

  • 14 And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira, which worshipped God, heard us: whose heart the Lord opened, that she attended unto the things which were spoken of Paul.
  • 15 And when she was baptized, and her household, she besought us, saying, If ye have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come into my house, and abide there. And she constrained us.
  • 1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

The Bible is clear that salvation can be and should be a household experience.

Several examples of this are found in the Scriptures.

Noah built an ark for the saving of his house.

  • Hebrews 11:7 By faith Noah, being warned of God of things not seen as yet, moved with fear, prepared an ark to the saving of his house; by the which he condemned the world, and became heir of the righteousness which is by faith.

The Philippian Jailor

Acts 16

  • 31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
  • 32 And they spake unto him the word of the Lord, and to all that were in his house.
  • 34 And when he had brought them into his house, he set meat before them, and rejoiced, believing in God with all his house.

Crispus in Acts 18

  • Acts 18:8 And Crispus, the chief ruler of the synagogue, believed on the Lord with all his house…

One of the greatest examples of household salvation is the story of Cornelius in Acts 10.

He was a great dad, but he was not a saved man.

By the way, Cornelius as a lost man put most Christian men to shame with his life.

Notice several things about this man that distinguished him from other men.

  • He was a leader – vs. 1 “…a centurion of the band…”
  • He was a fighter and a warrior – vs. 1
  • He was a devout man – vs. 2
  • He was a God-fearing man. vs. 2 “…one that feared God WITH ALL HIS HOUSE. – vs. 2
  • He was a generous man. – vs. 2 “…He gave much alms to the people…”
  • He was a praying man. – vs. 2 “…and prayed to God alway.”
  • He had a reverential fear of God. – vs. 3, 4 “…he was afraid and said, What is it, Lord?”
  • He was a just man – vs. 22
  • He had a good report among all the nations – vs. 22
  • He was a man of influence – vs. 24 “…he called together his kinsmen and near friends…”
  • He was receptive to the Word of God – vs. 33 “…we are all here present before God to hear all things…”
  • He believed the Gospel and was born again – vs. 44-48

How do we know Cornelius got saved in chapter 10? SEE Acts 11:12-18

  • Verse 14 says, “Who shall tell thee words, whereby…” Faith cometh by hearing the Word of God.
  • Verse 14 says, “thou and all thy house shall be saved.”
  • Verse 17 says, “…God gave them the like gift…” (the indwelling of the Holy Ghost)
  • Verse 18 says, “…God hath to the Gentiles granted repentance unto life.”

SEE also ACTS 15:7-9

  • 7 And when there had been much disputing, Peter rose up, and said unto them, Men and brethren, ye know how that a good while ago God made choice among us, that the Gentiles by my mouth should hear the word of the gospel, and believe.
  • 8 And God, which knoweth the hearts, bare them witness, giving them the Holy Ghost, even as he did unto us;
  • 9 And put no difference between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith.

Acts 15 says about Cornelius:

  • Vs. 7 should hear the word of the gospel, and believe.
  • Vs. 8 “And God, which knoweth the hearts, bare them witness…”

John 2:25 And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.

  • Vs. 9 “…giving them the Holy Ghost…”
  • Vs. 9 “…purifying their hearts by faith.”

Cornelius did not have a Christian home UNTIL the Gospel had been personally experienced in his life.

The fearing God didn’t make it a Christian home.

The giving of much alms didn’t make it a Christian home.

The praying always to God didn’t make it a Christian home.

What made Cornelius a Christian father and his home a Christian home was when he got born again!

II. Where God is Exalted – Acts 10:46 For they heard them…magnify God.

  • Joshua 24:15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.

If there are any other gods in the home, it is not a Christian home.

God will not share His throne with any other gods.

Our “Christian” homes are filled today with false gods. Small “g” gods.

NOTE: The picture of the home is that of the relationship between Christ and the church.

Does the world see that in your home?

III. Where Godliness is Expected

You cannot have a Christian home and a worldly home at the same time.

SEE Psalm 101

               A. Godly Admonition

  • Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Deuteronomy 6

  • 6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
  • 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
  • 8 And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.
  • 9 And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.

How much Christian teaching and training takes place in your home?

               B. Godly Atmosphere

  • Psalms 101:2 I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.
  • Psalms 101:7 He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.

               C. Godly Activities

  • 1 Corinthians 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
  • 1 Timothy 4:8 For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come.