Shaping the Next Generation Part 3
Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
Intro: Make no mistake. The marriage of Rebekah and Isaac produced disastrous results in their family.
When mama and daddy are not on the same page, Satan will wreak havoc in your home.
The story of Esau and Jacob is a nightmare family dynamic.
Not between the brothers, but between the parents.
KEY PRINCIPLE – the parents have to be united in raising godly children or it will not work!
You have to speak with ONE VOICE!
I Corinthians 14
- 7 And even things without life giving sound, whether pipe or harp, except they give a distinction in the sounds, how shall it be known what is piped or harped?
- 8 For if the trumpet give an uncertain sound, who shall prepare himself to the battle?
- 9 So likewise ye, except ye utter by the tongue words easy to be understood, how shall it be known what is spoken? for ye shall speak into the air.
There are several aspects of this home that produced years of pain, hurt, suffering and separation.
I. Their Disconnect was Apparent – vs. 3
In verse 5, she heard her husband wanted savory meat.
Why didn’t she tell him she’d make it for him?
She didn’t see his wants as an opportunity to serve him; but an opportunity to serve herself.
Isaac asked Esau to make a savory meat, such as I love.
Notice verse 9 – Rebekah is going to make savory meat for her husband “…such as he loveth.”
Question: Why would Isaac ask Esau to make savory meat when his wife could make it?
Why would you ask the student to cook you something when you’ve got the teacher right there?
Something is not right.
Also, the power struggle between the two parents is obvious in this story.
Several times, she instructed her son to “obey my voice according to that which I command thee…” – vs. 8, 13, 43
She knew her actions would produce a cursed child and was OK with it. – see vs. 13
In fact, she was willing to be a partaker of his curse.
II. Their Deceit was Appalling – vs. 3; vs. 9
Isaac wanted savory meat made from venison.
Rebekah made savory meat from goats, and he couldn’t tell the difference.
Her deceit was multi-faceted.
There was so much deception in this home it is hard to dissect it.
She didn’t just deceive her husband, but she taught her kids to do it. – verse 12 “…seem to him as a deceiver…”
See verse 15, 16
She dressed Jacob up like Esau in order to deceive Isaac.
III. Their Discernment was Absent – vs. 1, 23
When the dad in the home loses his ability to discern, there’s nothing but trouble ahead.
Isaac was directed by his feelings; not by facts.
His eyes were dim, and he could not see.
Verse 27 says he relied on his smell.
When you lack discernment, something can pass the smell test and still not be right!
IV. Their Division was Agonizing
Rebekah’s loyalty was to her husband – not to her son.
If Rebekah had worked WITH Isaac instead of AGAINST him, their family would have turned out much different.
There was a lot of backstabbing in this family.
- Mom betrayed Esau in verse 6.
- Mom betrayed her husband Isaac in verse 10
- Mom betrayed Esau again in verse 42, and then told Jacob what he said.
- Mom also betrayed Jacob – instead of helping live down his name, she made him live up to it. Vs. 36
Proverbs 20:11 Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work [be] pure, and whether [it be] right.
Guess what Mom? Your parenting will establish your child’s testimony.
Your child is known by his doings. You are the one to establish and direct and train his doings.
What is your children known for?
Everyone was left scarred and affected by the lack of proper loyalties.
A. Isaac trembled very exceedingly – vs. 33
B. Esau cried with a great and exceeding bitter cry – vs. 34
C. Esau hated Jacob – vs. 41
D. Rebekah lost her son Esau – vs. 45
E. Rebekah was miserable because of Esau’s wives (26:35, 36) so he married 2 more – (28:8, 9)
F. Jacob and Esau didn’t see one another for over twenty years
The one thing that mom and dad agreed on, Jacob obeyed.
See Mom’s command in 27:46
See Dad’s command in 28:1
See Jacob’s obedience to both parents in 28:7