Taking Your Marriage to the Next Level – Pastor Stacey Shiflett

Taking Your Marriage to the Next Level

Song of Solomon 2:10 My beloved spake, and said unto me, Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.

Introduction: Our marriages and homes are under unprecedented Satanic attack.

  • This message is for those that are married.
  • This message is for those of you that hope to one day be married.
  • This message is for those of you that are not married that need a church with strong marriages.

If you are a member of this church, and your church needs this message, then you need it.

You can pray for those that are married.

You can pray a wall of prayer around them and their home.

               A. The Appetizing Passion – vs. 1-7

  • 1 I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.
  • 2 As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
  • 3 As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
  • 4 He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.
  • 5 Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love.
  • 6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.
  • 7 I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.

NOTE: He brought her to a BANQUETING HOUSE.

This speaks of Planning, Preparation, and Plenty.

The love life should not be a bag of chips and a coke; it should be a banquet!

His fruit was sweet to her taste. – vs. 3

               B. The Appealing Presence

  • 8 The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.
  • 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice.

She was excited to hear him coming!

She was peeking through the windows; the lattice, pulling back the curtains to get a glimpse.

Our wives ought to be excited to know we are coming home.

He was like a roe or a young hart; not a grizzly bear or a charging wildebeest!

The picture that is painted her is one of an appealing presence; a desirable encounter.

His approach was leaping; skipping; one of joy, happiness, delight.

               C. The Abounding Possibilities

  • 11 The winter is past. Speaks of no more coldness, no more discomfort, no more dreary, dark days.
  • 11 The rain is over and gone. Speaks of the fact that there is nothing to prevent growth and life.
  • 12 The flowers appear on the earth. The beauty, the aroma, the visual enhancement.
  • 12 The singing of the birds is come. Sounds of life,
  • 12 The voice of the turtle is heard in our land. The doves; turtle doves.
  • 12 The fig tree putteth forth her green figs. (Numbers 13:23; 1 Samuel 25:18)
  • 13 The vines with the tender grape give a good smell. A marketable resource; a valued commodity.

               D. The Arousing Proposition

Vs. 10 “Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away.”

Vs. 13 “Arise my love, my fair one, and come away.”

Twice he invited her to RISE UP (vs. 10)

Rise up means you have to get up; move; rouse yourself from a lethargic state.

Get up from a state of being settled; comfortable and explore new territory.

Arise and come away!

He was inviting her to take their relationship to another level.

How can you take your marriage to another level?

I. With Your Confidingcome out of hiding; the cleft of the rock; secret place…

He wanted her to open up to him.

He wanted her to feel safe with him and not withhold anything.

The cleft of the rock is where people hide when they are afraid.

The word CLEFTS literally means: places of concealment, retreats

Instead of ascending the stairs, she was hiding underneath.

He wanted her to come out of hiding; not concealing or retreating

Transparency; honesty; confident in his response.

II. With Your Countenancelet me see thy countenance; thy countenance is comely

A person’s face is their unique identity.

But he didn’t say he wanted to see her face.

He said he wanted to see her countenance.

Countenance is far deeper than physical appearance.

The Bible likens a person’s countenance to their mood; their mindset; their mental state.


  • Genesis 4:6 And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?
  • Daniel 1:13 Then let our countenances be looked upon before thee, and the countenance of the children that eat of the portion of the king’s meat: and as thou seest, deal with thy servants.

Notice the countenance of the man in this book:

  • Song of Solomon 5:15 His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars.

The man had an excellent countenance; exquisite; cedar was a rare and valuable commodity.

May our homes be filled with comely countenances.

III. With Your Conversationlet me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice.

He wanted her to talk to him.

He listened to her.

He wanted to hear her voice.

Her voice was sweet; not bitter; not sour, not salty – but sweet.

IV. With Your CommunionMy beloved is mine, and I am his.

Their relationship wasn’t a one-way street.

They both wanted each other; they belonged to each other.

There was a mutual love and claim to each other.

There was a loving, possessive relationship.

When we were married, it was TO HAVE AND TO HOLD.

We belong to our spouse.

There is no place in the marriage for abandonment or neglect.

Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church. – Ephesians 5

He promised never to leave us or forsake us. – Hebrews 13:5