Taking Command – Pastor Stacey Shiflett

Taking Command

Genesis 18:19

Intro: God blessed Abraham with a son because of the leadership he demonstrated.

God knew that Abraham would be a leader of his house.

COMMAND: to command, charge, give orders, lay charge, give charge to, order

God’s exact words in verse 19 were “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household…”

  • 17 And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do;
  • 18 Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him?
  • 19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.

Apparently, God isn’t “woke” and hasn’t been following the hashtags and what’s trending on Twitter.

Both in the Old Testament, and in the New Testament, God clearly designated the husband and the dad to be the head of the home.

               1. The Attack on Masculinity

The attack on masculinity in this nation has reached dangerous levels.

We live in a society that promotes masculinity in girls and women, but protests boys and men acting like men and boys.

It is politically correct for women to wear jeans, hardhats and boots and for men to wear makeup.

Boris Johnson, the Prime Minister of England last week said last week at the G7 Summit:

“The people of our countries now want us to be sure that we’re beating the pandemic together, and discussing how we’ll never have a repeat of what we’ve seen but also that we’re building back better together. And building back greener, and building back fairer, and building back more equal and—how shall I—in a more gender-neutral, and perhaps a more feminine, way—how about that—apart from anything else.”

               2. The Attack on Patriarchy

The attack on patriarchal leadership has become another fashionable Marxist trend.

The greatest threat to the African American community is not racism or joblessness or lack of government funding or unaffordable housing. The number one threat to the black community is a lack of male leadership in the home.

Husbands and dads are AWOL – leaving their children to fend for themselves and to grow up without a man in the home to take charge of their upbringing.

Newsflash – God didn’t change His mind about who it is that He designed to command the house.

Let me add – When I want to know how the home is supposed to operate, I don’t get my education from Wikipedia, or Google, or Hollywood, or the sodomites, or the Marxist training centers, also known as public schools – I get my information from the Creator of the earth, God Almighty.

Make no mistake – the rejection of masculine men and patriarchal leadership is a rejection of God and God’s plan for the home.

He set it up that way, and when He wants it done differently, He will let us know.


Ephesians 5

  • 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
  • 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
  • 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
  • 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;


  • Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

NOTE: To understand God’s role for the husband and the wife means you understand the balance of sharing authority and leadership.

Notice what Paul said in

  • 1 Timothy 5:14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

He went on to say in Titus 2:

  • Titus 2:5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
  • KEEPERSto guard or to watch

It is a group effort – husbands and wives working together; moms and dads working together.

But make no mistake – God’s plan was for the man – the husband – the dad TO TAKE COMMAND OF HIS HOUSE!

Back to our text:

Before Abraham ever had Isaac, he was demonstrating the very leadership skills that God was pleased with.

God made a covenant with Abraham because He knew Abraham could handle the job. See verse 19:

               A. The Confidence in Abraham“For I know him that he will…”

               B. The Command of Abraham“…that he will command his children, and his household…”

               C. The Compensation of Abraham“…that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken…”

Taking Command when it comes to:

I. Wicked

In Genesis 13, Lot separated from Abraham.

The Bible says they separated themselves the one from the other.

Lot chose him all the plain of Jordan.

According to verse 10, he chose it because it looked like the land of Egypt.

The Bible says that he pitched this tent toward Sodom.

And that the men of Sodom were wicked and sinners before the Lord exceedingly (vs. 13).

One of the first things we see about Abraham when it came to taking command was how he handled

family and the wicked.

One of the most difficult choices a man has to make is where to draw the line when it comes to family.

Lot liked Egypt. Lot like things that looked like Egypt. Lot chose the plains of Jordan.

Taking Command when it comes to:

II. War

NOTE: God saw Abraham’s leadership and ability to command his household in chapter 18:19 because of Abraham’s testimony of TAKING COMMAND in chapter 14.

               A. Abraham’s Preparation for War – “…he armed his trained servants, born in his own house…”

  • 14 And when Abram heard that his brother was taken captive, he armed his trained servants, born in his own house, three hundred and eighteen, and pursued them unto Dan.

               B. Abraham’s Pursuit in War – he pursued the 4 kings and their armies that the 5 kings couldn’t defeat.

  • 15 And he divided himself against them, he and his servants, by night, and smote them, and pursued them unto Hobah, which is on the left hand of Damascus.

               C. Abraham’s Power in War – vs. 16 “he brought back all the goods, …and his brother Lot…”

  • 16 And he brought back all the goods, and also brought again his brother Lot, and his goods, and the women also, and the people.

Taking Command when it comes to:

III. Wealth

               A. The Truth of his Wealth – 13:2; 13:14-18 The Bible says he was “very rich.”

Abraham knew how to make money and how to save it.

God could trust him because he was responsible in the area of finances.

Abraham didn’t owe every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Abraham wasn’t buried in credit card debt.

Abraham wasn’t broke all the time and mismanaged his money.

He had money – a lot of it.

               B. The Tithing of his Wealth – 14:20 (also mentioned in Hebrews 7:2)

The Bible says, “He gave him tithes of all…”

He gave God a tenth of everything he owned.

Imagine that!

And you don’t see his wife standing there complaining or trying to talk him out of it.

Abraham took command of his household in the area of finances.

               C. The Testimony of his Wealth – 14:21-23 “I will not take from a thread even to a shoelatchet…”

Abraham was very particular about where he made his money.

He didn’t want anything the king of Sodom had to offer.

He refused to even take a thread from him.

Taking Command when it comes to:

IV. Worship

  • Genesis 13:4 Unto the place of the altar, which he had made there at the first: and there Abram called on the name of the LORD.
  • Genesis 13:18 “…and built there an altar unto the LORD.”
  • Genesis 22:5 And Abraham said unto his young men, Abide ye here with the ass; and I and the lad will go yonder and worship, and come again to you.

Several things about this worship:

1. He left everything behind that could hinder him. – vs. 5 No doubt those servants would have interfered.

2. He kept the fire going in spite of the distance, the disappointment and the dread. – vs. 6

3. He didn’t let the testings and the trials from God diminish his leadership in the area of worship. – vs. 5

4. He clave the wood before he ever left the house. – a picture of the flesh/humanity being crucified.

Paul said “I die daily.” Paul said “I beat my body under subjection.”

Abraham “laid the wood in order” in verse 9. – (see also I Kings 18:33)

Daddy dealt with his flesh so he could lead his family in worship.

NOTE: Abraham had passed his sin nature onto his son. (vs. 6 he laid the wood upon Isaac…”

He couldn’t get rid of the wood (humanity/flesh) but he could keep the fire going that would destroy the wood.

Conclusion: The one thing that Abraham had taught Isaac was that there was supposed to be a lamb for the sacrifice.

Daddy – have you taught your children the importance of the sacrificial lamb?

Do they know that a lamb is needed, and Who that Lamb is??