Fatal Mistakes to Avoid – Shaping the Next Generation Series

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Shaping the Next Generation Part 2

Fatal Mistakes to Avoid

Judges 16:26 And Samson said unto the lad that held him by the hand, Suffer me that I may feel the pillars whereupon the house standeth, that I may lean upon them.

Intro: As I meditated on this story again today, I had a horrible realization.

In this story, Samson died and took this little lad with him. This little boy was a Philistine, no doubt. He was raised by heathens, surrounded by heathens and pagans, false gods and idolatry. In fact, they were offering sacrifices to Dagon (vs. 23)

This boy had a ONE IN A MILLION chance to ever know God. And Samson was that ONE IN A MILLION chance.

If there was ANYBODY that could have spared that boy a life of pain and heartache, it might have been Samson.

In 16:24, they recognized him as a great enemy; a hero for the other side.

There was a little boy there – holding his hand.

No doubt that little boy stared at him in amazement.

Here was a real live hero. A mighty warrior.

No doubt he had heard the stories.

No doubt this boy had heard about killing a lion with his bare hands. – 14:6

He’d heard how Samson had killed 30 men at one time and took their clothes off to settle a debt.

He’d heard how Samson had went out and caught 300 foxes and tied their tails together, set them on fire and burned up the corn, the vineyards and the olive groves of the Philistines.

He’d heard how Samson had killed 1,000 Philistines with the jawbone of an ass.

He’d heard they trapped Samson within the city walls, and he took the door of the gate and the posts and carried them to the top of Hebron approximately 37 miles away.

NOTE: It’s 38 miles from downtown Baltimore to downtown Washington DC.

But instead of saving him; delivering him; showing him a better life, Samson took him out.

Samson got out of God’s will – died out of God’s will and took that little boy with him.

Listen: The young people today are playing against a stacked deck.

If these kids survive the world; the scars of sin; the deathtraps of destruction waiting for them, it will be nothing short of a miracle.

These kids – our young people – have about a one in a million chance of turning out for God.

Mom! Dad! You may very well be that one in a million chance.

Please don’t kill them!

Please don’t take them out with your bad choices, bad parenting, bad living!

Here are just a few of the FATAL MISTAKES that Samson made that you and I as parents need to avoid.

I. Unscriptural Alliances – 14:1,2

He married the wrong woman – 14:1, 2

He had the wrong companions – 14:10, 11

The friends he used to have were not his real friends – 14:20

His companions came between him and his wife.

The wrong friends will destroy your marriage.

  • Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.

Do your friends make your sharper? Or more dull?

II. Unrestrained Appetite – 14:9

Samson’s parents had been commanded by God in 13:5 to raise Samson as a Nazarite.

He took honey out of the carcass of a lion, “...and went on eating…”

  • Proverbs 9:17 Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.

He knew better.

Verse 9 says he didn’t tell his parents where he got the honey.

Notice the progression:

  • Vs. 8 “…he turned aside to see…”
  • Vs. 9 “…and took thereof in his hands…”

III. Ungodly Activities – 15:1

Samson, the strongest man in the Bible had a problem.

He was always in the wrong place.

  • 14:1 – “…Samson went down to Timnath…”
  • 14:5 – “Samson went down to Timnath…and came to the vineyards.”

What was Samson doing in a vineyard?

In 14:8 he turned aside to see the carcase of the lion.

He should have never been there.

He should have never gone back to look.

Funny isn’t it – the lion didn’t get him the first time, but it got him the second time.

He whipped it the first time, but it whipped him the second time.

He wouldn’t have encountered it either time if he hadn’t been in that vineyard.

IV. Unguarded Amusements – vs. 10, 13 15

Samson was playing. It was a game to him.

In chapter 14, he was telling riddles to the wrong crowd.

In chapter 16, he’s playing games with Delilah in vs. 10, 13 15

He knew they were trying to kill him, but he kept hanging around.

Kept playing games. Until it was too late.

SEE 16:20 “He wist not that the Lord was departed from him…”

Satan then put his eyes out. 16:21

NOTICE: His eyes was what kept getting him in trouble.

  • 14:1 – “…he saw a woman…”
  • 14:2 “…I have seen a woman…”
  • 14:8 “…turned aside to see the carcase of the lion…”
  • 16:1 “Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there an harlot…”

She finally vs. 19 “made him sleep upon her knees”

Satan has lulled more people to sleep through games, fun, recreation than we will ever know.

Conclusion: In closing, keep this in mind. Samson was serving God throughout all this. 

  • Chapter 13:24, the Bible says that “…the child grew and the Lord blessed him.”
  • Chapter 13:25 says “And the Spirit of the Lord began to move him at times…”
  • Chapter 14:6 says, “And the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him…”
  • Chapter 14:19 says, … “And the Spirit of the Lord came upon him…”
  • Chapter 15:14 says, “…and the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him…”
  • Chapter 115:18, Samson prayed and God heard his prayer.
  • Chapter 15:20, it says “…he judged Israel… twenty years.”
  • But in 16:30, there is no mention of the Spirit of God helping him.

He bowed himself with all his might. It was all him. No help. No Spirit of God coming upon him.

In the midst of all he did right, Samson made some fatal mistakes.

And those mistakes cost him his life, and the life of that little lad that was holding his hand. He died out of God’s will. And he took that little boy that looked up to him out with him.