Dealing With Rejection
I Sam 8:1-22
1. The Reality of Rejection – vs 6
Rejection is a reality. And it hurts.
Notice this is the first time we find the word REJECTED.
It means: to reject, despise, refuse
It is translated in other places: despise 25, refuse 9, reject 19, abhor 4, become loathsome 1, melt away
The Bible is filled with examples of good people that experienced the pain and reality of rejection.
- Joseph – rejected by his brothers
- Hosea’s wife rejected him and her children – Hosea
- Jesus – Isaiah 53 …he was despised and rejected of men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief.
Multiple times the Scripture refers to Jesus as the stone that the builders rejected. Jesus referred to being rejected numerous times during his preaching. Mark 8:31, 12:10
2. The Reasons for Rejection – vs 7
He was old, and his sons were not right. But they did not ask for another prophet.
They wanted a king.
They tried to make it about him, but it wasn’t about him at all.
He had his fault, and he had his failures, but that was not the problem. – vs 8
NOTE: The things they had a problem with, were things he had no control over.
In other words, their rejection was something he had no control over.
Their rejection of him was unfair and undeserving.
Notice Samuel’s way of making them admit this:
- I Samuel 12:1 And Samuel said unto all Israel, Behold, I have hearkened unto your voice in all that ye said unto me, and have made a king over you. And now, behold, the king walketh before you: and I am old and grayheaded; and, behold, my sons are with you: and I have walked before you from my childhood unto this day. Behold, here I am: witness against me before the LORD, and before his anointed: whose ox have I taken? or whose ass have I taken? or whom have I defrauded? whom have I oppressed? or of whose hand have I received any bribe to blind mine eyes therewith? and I will restore it you. And they said, Thou hast not defrauded us, nor oppressed us, neither hast thou taken ought of any man’s hand.
God revealed to him that this was NOT about him.
He could make it personal, but it was much bigger than that.
Did they reject Samuel? Of course.
Were they being hurtful and mean to him? Of course.
Did they clearly want to get rid of him and replace him with someone else? Of course.
But look what God told him – vs.7 …they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me.
III. The Reaction to Rejection
A. He Protested – vs 9
God said for him to listen to the, but to put up a protest.
That is the natural thing to do when you are experiencing rejection.
Try and get to the bottom of it, and make your case.
God permitted him to protest, and to protest solemnly.
He tried to show them that they were doing the wrong thing, but it didn’t matter. vs. 19
Nothing he said made any difference.
B. He Prayed – vs 6, 22
- He prayed ABOUT the problem.
Notice verse 6 – in his displeasure, in his pain, he turned to the Lord in prayer.
It was during this time of prayer that God showed him the truth about what was happening.
It was during this time of prayer that God revealed the source of the problem.
- He prayed FOR those that had rejected him.
SEE: I Samuel 12:13-23
- 1 Samuel 12:23 Moreover as for me, God forbid that I should sin against the LORD in ceasing to pray for you: but I will teach you the good and the right way:
C. He Persevered
He didn’t change who he was.
NOTICE Samuel didn’t ask to be made a king.
He didn’t stop doing what he had always been doing and being what he had always been.
He was God’s man. That was who he was!
- I Sam. 9:6 …there is in this city a man of God, and he is an honourable man;
His responsibility was to hear from God and convey it to the people.
He didn’t let their rejection of him or of God stop him.
- He kept on doing his job. – 10:1
- He kept on preaching. – 10:17-19, 12:1
- He kept on warning. – 12:13-15; 25
- He kept on praying. – 12:17-19
- He kept on relaying the messages from God. – 12:20-24
Lessons to Learn:
People rejecting you does not make you a reject.
- Ephesians 1:6 To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.
People rejecting you shouldn’t change your perception of God.
- Romans 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
People rejecting you shouldn’t change your relationship with God.
- Job 13:1 Lo, mine eye hath seen all this, mine ear hath heard and understood it.
- 2 What ye know, the same do I know also: I am not inferior unto you.
- 4 But ye are forgers of lies, ye are all physicians of no value.
- 5 O that ye would altogether hold your peace! and it should be your wisdom.
- 13 ¶ Hold your peace, let me alone, that I may speak, and let come on me what will.
- 15 Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.
People rejecting you usually indicates a more serious problem on their part. Pray for them.
- Jesus prayed – Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.
- Stephen prayed – Father, lay not this sin to their charge.