Dealing with Disdain – 7/26/20 PM

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Dealing With Disdain

I Sam. 17:42…saw David, and disdained him.

Intro: Disdained: to despise, hold in contempt, disdain, to be vile, worthless

               A. He was Disdained by His FoeI Sam. 17:42

We know that the world will hate us.

  • John 15:18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.

Later we are reminded:

  • 1 John 3:13 Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you.

Several places in the Scriptures, it reminds us that as Christians, we will have to deal with disdain.

  • Luke 6:28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.

DESPISE: to contemn, despise, disdain, think little or nothing of

Notice what the Apostle Paul said:

I Corinthians 4

  • 10 We are fools for Christ’s sake, but ye are wise in Christ; we are weak, but ye are strong; ye are honourable, but we are despised.
  • 11 Even unto this present hour we both hunger, and thirst, and are naked, and are buffeted, and have no certain dwellingplace;
  • 12 And labour, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it:
  • 13 Being defamed, we intreat: we are made as the filth of the world, and are the offscouring of all things unto this day.

Jesus set the ultimate example of how to act when one is despised.

  • Isaiah 53:3 He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were [our] faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
  • Matthew 5:11 Blessed are ye, when [men] shall revile you, and persecute [you], and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.

               B. He was Disdained by His Father – I Sam. 16:1-11

The Bible tells us that the prophet Samuel came to anoint one of Jesse’s sons as the king.

Notice verse 5 – Samuel sanctified Jesse and his sons, and called them to the sacrifice.

Jesse did not even bother to go get David.

               C. He was Disdained by Family – I Sam. 17:28

  • 1 Samuel 17:28 And Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spake unto the men; and Eliab’s anger was kindled against David, and he said, Why camest thou down hither? and with whom hast thou left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know thy pride, and the naughtiness of thine heart; for thou art come down that thou mightest see the battle.

We know his brothers were not chosen by God because their hearts were not right. 16:6, 7

They were also not interested in the “cause” that David was interested in.

They heard the defiance of the giant for 40 days (17:16)

               D. He was Disdained by the Fearful

Why didn’t Saul go out there?

Verse 2 tells us that Saul and the men of Israel set the battle in array.

So why didn’t they fight?

Verse 11 gives you the answer. They were dismayed, and greatly afraid.

Saul was his leader; his general; his mentor; yet Saul was afraid.

The bad thing is this – not only was Saul afraid to fight, but he looked down on David for wanting to.

Saul’s disdain of David actually began at the beginning of this story.

Chapter 16 ends with David’s ability to minister to Saul and refresh him.

Why didn’t Saul take David to the battle with him?

Notice I Sam. 17:15 David went and returned from Saul to feed his father’s sheep at Bethlehem.

David had played the harp, Saul was refreshed and the evil spirit had departed from him.

Why didn’t he take David with him to the battle?

I’m guessing he disdained him from the outset.

Look at verse 33:

  • 1 Samuel 17:33 And Saul said to David, Thou art not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him: for thou [art but] a youth, and he a man of war from his youth.

David had been mocked, belittled and disdained by everybody around him.

But I want you to notice why NONE of this is important.

  • 1 Samuel 13:14 But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the LORD hath sought him a man after his own heart, and the LORD hath commanded him [to be] captain over his people, because thou hast not kept [that] which the LORD commanded thee.

David knew that God believed in him.

When God believes in you – that is all that matters!

  • God had anointed him once before – 16:13 He could do it again!
  • God had been with him before – 16:18 – He could do it again!
  • God had used him – 16:23 – He could do it again!
  • God had delivered him – 17:37 – He could do it again!

Who cared what anybody else thought?

  • Romans 8:31 What shall we then say to these things? If God [be] for us, who [can be] against us?

Here are three ways for you to DEAL WITH DISDAIN:

I. Disregard your Mockers – vs. 29

The first thing you are going to have to learn to do is ignore the gainsayers.

Just tune them out; don’t pay them any attention.

If you get into an argument with them, it will make their day and ruin yours.

Just forget them.

  • Proverbs 26:4 Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him.

Sometimes, your response to an attack only adds credibility to it. Just ignore them.

II. Discover your Motivation – vs. 26, 29, 46c

Many people cannot overcome people’s opinions because they are not properly motivated to start with.

I have a quote in my office – right above my desk – eye level that says –

  • “When you feel like quitting, remember why you started.”

If you are in this just to make friends, you won’t last long.

Popularity cannot be your motivation.

Prestige cannot be your motivation.

You are going to have to get crystal clear on why you’re in this fight, or you won’t make it!!

David’s motivation was to correct the wrong; set the record straight that THERE WAS A GOD IN ISRAEL!!        


He wasn’t out to declare that he was God’s anointed; but by promoting God, he proved just that!

He wasn’t out to inform the world that he was the next king, but by confronting the giant, he set that in motion.

He wasn’t out to make everybody else look bad. He just got tired of them making God look bad!

His agenda – his cause – his motivation was not physical, or emotional, or financial – it was spiritual!

He wasn’t motivated by the promise of riches, or Saul’s daughter in marriage.

In fact, he protested Saul’s offer in 18:18

III. Discharge your Mission – vs. 32

There comes a time when you have to quit talking about it, and just do it.

The battle will not wait.

The time for discussions, defending yourself, analyzing and planning has to end.

There will come a time when your planning, your preparation, your praying must result in fighting.

David couldn’t stand around all day trying to recruit help. – vs. 30

David couldn’t sit around all day and talk about what God USED to do. – vs. 35- 37

David couldn’t study his enemy and collect rocks but for just so long.

It came time to fulfill the mission.

He couldn’t be affected by everybody’s disdain; their discouraging words; their rudeness and hurtful words.

He had to focus on the task at hand; stay on point; see the battle through.